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To say that I’m “done” with online dating is a bit deceptive, considering I never even met one guy via my four rounds of OK-I’ll-try-meeting-guys-online bouts. And most recently, I sifted through about 25 messages over a period of two months and sent exactly ZERO responses.

Online dating is just NOT for me. I’ve moved on from the Ex (capital “e” to denote that I’m talking about my most recent ex), so it’s not an issue of dating discomfort. I just feel uneasy about agreeing to a “date” with someone I’ve not interacted with in person. And the more I hear about men in the New York City dating scene – like hearing that many, if not most, if not all, go in for a kiss on the first date [I’m not a prude but eek. NO.] – the less amenable I am to saying yes to this setup.

Anyone else thrown in the towel on online dating?

Ever since my most recent breakup (“implosion” might be more accurate), I’ve been trying to get out of my rut. I haven’t had the desire to get back with or contact my ex (aside from wanting to write a scathing email telling him off, but that’s normal, right?) but I haven’t exactly gotten back in the game either.

Truthfully, I know what my problem is. Once I like someone and have gotten to know him (and not even at a deep level, I’m embarrassed to admit), I stop looking instead of doing what smart daters do: cultivate a stream of prospects. And so not only do I make it easier for myself to get attached to jerks, but it also becomes obvious that I’ve closed off my options. Super attractive. Yep, the dreaded “Oneitis” isn’t just for guys! And even when you’re “cured” of it, finding a new interest is another step in itself…

So, I just reactivated my OKCupid account. I’m not making ANY promises, and really, I just did it because three of my friends have joined the ranks, and we’ve agreed to trade stories and make fun of the weird messages we receive. I haven’t put a lot of thought into my profile yet, so I LOVE that I’m already getting “I found your profile interesting so felt compelled to contact you” messages…