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Tonight is one of those nights. One of those I-feel-like-I-might-be-single-forever-and-die-alone nights. (There’d be a cat finding my body in that equation too, were I not allergic.)

Not to be dramatic or anything. I think it’s actually just impatience at long overdue (consistent) spring weather, as well as the culmination of a lot of life-churning decisions and changes taking place behind the scenes.  Too much cold weather plus big changes = need for a movie to make me sob and/or wax optimistic.

It’s a tossup, but my go-to movies rarely change. I’ll usually pull out Ever After for a Cinderella story (so befitting for the times, right?) or The Mirror Has Two Faces (I truly, truly LOVE Jeff Bridges!). If I were feeling especially melancholy, I might choose the Tom Hanks-Meg Ryan classic Sleepless in Seattle. Luckily, it’s not gotten THAT bad yet…

Hmm…these movies go back to the late 1990s. (I hope you readers have at least heard of these movies I’ve mentioned!) Is there really nothing a tad bit newer that can keep hope alive for a late twentysomething single gal?

Movie suggestions please! What do YOU watch when weather, big changes, or the unknown bring you down?


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Confession: I secretly hate email!

This might be coming off the tail end of having officially survived more than a week sans Facebook. (I purged the account in order to free up some time and lessen distractions.)  But I promise I’m NOT on a sudden tirade against social media or technology…deactivating my 24/7 presence isn’t the only reason I’ve been thinking about the art of the old-fashioned letter…and how much I wish I got more of them versus electronic hellos. (And I’m not the only one. Apparently, Victoria’s Secret model Adriana Lima had a handwritten letter on her Christmas wish list!)

I’ve been a fan of letter-writing for ages. Even today, I exchange letters and just-because gifts with a longtime friend who lives a few hundred miles away.

Here’s the thing: sometimes I let emails from friends sit in my inbox for days…weeks even…at a time. Sitting down to type a response to a long email can feel like a dreaded task to me. It’s because some people are so darn good at a super-speedy reply!  I guess I let the emails sit a bit because I don’t want a daily back-and-forth to spiral onto my daily To Do List.

My friend and I have an understanding that a month or two might pass in between our letters, and that’s perfectly fine. We don’t get annoyed when the other is silent for awhile. The time it takes to sit down and write out your thoughts, pages at a time, makes the letter that much more touching to a sentimental heart. I’m not planning on deleting my Gmail account anytime soon, but a girl can dream…

Have you ever written someone a handwritten letter? Or do you still prefer email?

Yeah, I did it this past Monday. Deactivating my Facebook account and saying goodbye for now to my 600+ nearest and dearest is something I’ve always toyed with. Oh yes, I’ve hit “submit” to the deactivation confirmation and then again when Facebook asked “Are you sure? So-and-so will miss you!” several times in the past…it’s just that I was never able to stay away for more than 4 to 5 hours, tops.

I can’t quite pinpoint why I’ve finally followed through this time (I know it’s early in the game, but it’s THURSDAY! That’s four long days!), but it just felt like the right step and the right time. I used to be an incessant status-updater, but I toned that down over the last few months and noticed that I actually did prefer to keep life’s minutiae and bigger decisions to myself! (Blogging life excluded, of course!) And other than that, it seemed like a time and energy sucker. Some people are GREAT at not stalking their exes or former friends (right?! I know you superhuman people are out there!). Me, I’m not one of them. I guess I finally decided, for all the time I was spending doing just that over the years, I needed to get a life!

It’ll kind of suck not seeing everyone’s new photos and hearing about their life events but…I’ll live. There’s always email and phone calls for the biggies, right?

Apparently Facebook also has an option to totally delete your account. I’ll definitely be re-entering the Facebook world someday (next month? in six months?), and it’s tempting to ponder the idea of deleting EVERYTHING (photos, wall posts, acquaintances I barely speak with) and starting from scratch.

Yep, I suddenly have a teensy bit of more time on my hands. And though it’s weird that I feel oddly ‘disconnected’ from my social circle, close or not, there’s a bright side: now no one can stalk me either! I kinda wonder who, if anyone, will notice that I’m gone! (My mom has already noticed, BTW.)

Would you ever consider closing your Facebook account? Or, have you ever done it? Most importantly,will it drastically affect my life?? Ha. Guess I’ll find out!

I know this post is a bit late, but I just found this interesting tidbit out, and actually, I keep hearing this from friends as well. Even if it’s just a myth it’s worth the pause: If you’ve been trying to fit in a monumental Decision before February is out—don’t. Here’s why.

Call it post-January failed-resolutions blues maybe, because all the excitement of a new year is beginning to wear off, holiday bills start coming in, and Valentine’s Day hits you in the face. February is NOT a month to make any life-altering decisions. Whatever it is, it’s definitely testing my resolve on many itching-to-make-a-change fronts.

Unless you’re totally sure and this decision is coming at the tail end of lots of introspection (as in, months’ worth), another week won’t kill you, and will probably help you make a better decision.

Thinking of quitting your job or throwing in the towel for a resolution? Give it some more time.

Itching to be proactive and meet someone new? Wait till spring…you know, love is in the air and all that stuff? Did your significant other just propose? Tell them to hold on a sec (just kidding, of course).

They say timing is everything. Did you make any big decisions this month?

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Is it just me, or does the recent 70-degree weather need to stay? Just in time, too, because February has been dragging on and there’s only so much spring fever I can take!

I’m sure you’ve probably heard of feng shui. Oh you know, that “ancient Chinese system of aesthetics believed to use the laws of both Heaven (astronomy) and Earth (geography) to help one improve life by receiving positive chi” (courtesy: Wikipedia).

I.e., a fancy way of saying spring cleaning.

Sometimes the best way to shift from negative energy to positive, or to shake up things that have gone stale, is to clear out the ghosts, in whatever form they might take. I’ve recently moved (temporarily) back to live at my parents’ house, so lucky me, I have many ghosts. (I tell you, it’s quite something to wake up in the room you slept in as a high school freshman.) While I figure out where to go next, I’ve been tossing out waaaaay old school papers, bon-firing photos of past loves that for some reason I held onto, and trashing lots of medals and plaques from high school and college.  (Who wants to remember past glory? Not me! Talk about depressing!)

So, while researching the feng shui idea just for kicks, I came across some interesting notes on how to use the concept to jumpstart or resuscitate your love life:

  • The bedroom must “support romance“–and it’s important to focus on a few specific areas. Such as  the wall across from the foot of your bed and what you see when you first enter the room: they should be filled with romantic-symbol-ific stuff, like hearts or roses or fat little cherubs. (Um, can I just dig up my Dirty Dancing poster? I’ll take someone like Patrick Swayze in a heartbeat.)
  • Pair up lone objects. A single candle or figurine flying solo on your dresser is a big DON’T, apparently.
  • Create space. Whether you’re looking for new romance or just wanting to improve a current one, that’s the feng shui key. Make space in your living quarters, everything from your closets to your bookshelves and cabinets. The idea is that all your STUFF represents your energy, and there’s no room for someone else’s energy in your life if they can’t fit their Macbook on your too-cluttered desk.

Hmm, does that mean if I do too good a job with cleaning my childhood bedroom, Mr. Love-of-My-Life’s energy will find me lightning fast and decide to move in with my parents too? Better tone it down…

Have you ever used the principles of feng shui to re-balance the energies of your (love) life?

My day is alternating between this:

and this:

Ah, bliss…slash disgust at the massive commercialization of this holiday AND at the sudden Facebook trend to change your profile pic to you and your loved one…sorry, but give me a break!

I know I said I like Valentine’s Day (I do! I think), but sweet contentment is, ironically, all the more difficult to achieve on a holiday.

Anyway, a wonderful Valentine’s Day to you and your loved ones! Enjoy this day of secret admirers, candy, flowers…and sudden bursts of love on social media for all the world to see. And if you’re feeling down, well, eat a heart-shaped cookie.

What do you think about the Facebook trend? I swear this wasn’t around last year. Is it too cute for words, or does it just exercise your gag-me reflex?

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Personally, I think the only gifts that are totally lame are ones in which little thought was put in (perhaps that’s why the perennial chocolate fails to please?)  or where creepiness and romance get muddied. (Personal story: Last year someone left a flower with a note addressing it to me on my car. At work. Yeah, not only did one of the managers find it, but I never was able to figure out who left it, and there are no single guys employed at my workplace. Someone who knew what car I drove…creepy!)

Valentine’s Day really shouldn’t be tricky or cause for stress. At the end of the day, who really wants all that fuss? (OK, some people. I get that.) Well for those seeking fuss, er, look elsewhere for gift ideas. I’ve come up with a list of super simple ideas for what to get all the special people in your life, romantic or not.

For the favorite gal pal: Hearts are in. Well, duh. But, no, really, hearts never go out of style fashion-wise. You can easily find an accessory or cute piece of jewelry that incorporates a heart for that girly girl on your friend list.

For the guy: Gadgets galore. After years of puzzled bewilderment trying to buy my dad gifts, it hit me–unless you’re going super sentimental, the perfect gift for the guy in your life – any guy – is a gadget. It doesn’t have to be fancy. Anything they can pull apart and put together again is fair game. Heck, just get one of those miniature Lego box sets where they have to put together some structure or contraption. And, tools are always a quick win. Just get a hammer or screwdriver in a new color. Wrap the gift in red or pink and voila! You are the best Valentine gift giver ever.

For the kids in your life: Cards and candy never fail.  We grown-up women may frown upon the trite box of chocolates, but kids haven’t been jaded yet, and you’re sure to score success with a simple card and a box of candy, preferably one with a cartoon theme or “fun” candy, like Gummie Bears or Jolly Ranchers. So easy to shop for!

For the sentimental fools: something made from scratch. Sentimental fool,  I can definitely be one of those. If you know someone who’ll appreciate a bit of that extra silly effort, a handmade card, a batch of colorful cookies, personalized crafts (see image above), or a heartfelt handwritten letter you’ve taken the time to drop in the mail will definitely be cherished.

It really is the thought, the tiny act of thinking to give something at all, that counts. So make it simple and personalized.

Is there any type of gift you would love/hate to get on Valentine’s Day?