When it comes to matters of the heart, what’s YOUR best guide?
I’ve noticed that the older I get, the less I tend to listen to my brain chattering away, and the fewer people I go to for advice. And, I make decisions much more quickly. Hmm, I thought I was supposed to get wiser…shouldn’t it be the opposite?
Perhaps that is just it. After all, inner wisdom and all that knowing thyself take time to develop. Nowadays, I’m definitely an intuition kind of gal and for the most part a follow-your-heart believer.
And even though my intuition has definitely taken me on some interesting adventures on occasion, I’m happy to report that that happens less and less frequently. However, when it comes to love, I’ve found that there are some things you CAN do and SHOULD do to find a happy medium between the guidance from your oft-impatient heart and cautious brain:
- Think it through…thoroughly. Take as much time as you need to make a decision. For the bigger ones, sometimes it’s best not to set a concrete deadline at all…just go with it.
- Know that intuition isn’t always immediate. Maybe this is contradictory to the concept, but instincts can get rusty. Sure, you might get an initial FEELING and that reaction might be strong. But to become more attuned to your inner voice, it might take a lot of wrong-guessing and mental decluttering. There’s a big difference between something not feeling right and a general sense of pessimism that has slowly infiltrated your total outlook. Really, it’s huge if you can take some extra moments to sort through your gut responses!
- Wait at least 24 hours before sending an emotion-filled email. Even an hour will do. Sometimes, if you send the email to yourself, that action can almost fake the ‘finality’ of a message sent. You might still be OK with your message…or you might find that you immediately regret the way you expressed yourself! (The heart is funny that way!)
- Have an ‘escape route’ at the ready for whatever the situation entails…if possible. You just have to go into things assuming your heart is wrong, no matter what. Even if there is NO reason to need it whatsoever, having an exit plan ready can be a comfort. (Or maybe only for doomsaying situational-hypochondriacs (is there such a thing?) like me.)
- When all else fails… Go with your heart if you’re pulled in that direction. Your brain will likely be able to pull you out if you were wrong! Sometimes you can’t search too deep for rational justifications.
Of course, the #1 no-fail method is to find that one friend who can always read you better than you can read yourself. That’s a gem!